Cunnilingus: How to satisfy a woman orally?

Cunnilingus is an oral sex act performed in order to satisfy a woman: The term is derived from the Latin words “Cunnus“, which means “vulva“, and lingua which means “tongue“. Other terms used are Fellatio and “go down on” or “eating out”. The male counterpart is called a “blowjob”. Oral sex is a very private and intimate way to get closer to your partner: Every vagina has its own vaginal flora, which smells and tastes differently. This area is also one of the most intimate and sensitive parts of a woman that you will encounter. A lot of women simply don’t feel comfortable receiving oral sex, so it might take some time until she allows it. This is often due to insecurities about scent or taste. For most men however, the intimate odour is actually very arousing. A woman can influence the scent and taste. (See below for tips)

 “Going down on” in practice – For many women, it’s extremely difficult or even impossible to orgasm without stimulating the clitoris directly. This is why oral sex shouldn’t only be limited to foreplay but can also help to purposefully bring your partner to climax. For cunnilingus, she can lie on her back and your head is between her spread out legs. For her, this position is pleasant and she can relax her whole body. For you, this position is more convenient by placing a small cushion underneath her bottom so your neck is relieved. There are no real instructions for a good cunnilingus but there are some things that need to be kept in mind:

 Move slowly and cautiously – The genitals are very sensitive and must therefore be handled very carefully. This is just as important when stimulating externally as it is with internal stimulation. Wild licking and sucking can be very enjoyable for a man but this can feel very unpleasant for a woman and might put her off sex. Definitely avoid aggressive moves like biting! So start slow, calm and gentle. Touch and caress her whole body, approaching her genitals slowly. Kiss and stroke the lower belly and the inner sides of her thighs until you finally reach the area around her vulvar lips. In the meantime she can relax and ease into the experience. Especially give attention to the erogenous zones such as the inner thighs and the lower belly, she will be turned on massively. Then attend to the vulvar lips: tender kissing, licking and stroking is very pleasant for a woman – if she approves then you could try nibbling very gently.

 Destination: clitoris – The clitoris is by far the most delicate area of the vulva and clitoral stimulation can help women orgasm very easily. How you move your lips and tongue is up to you – changing pace, gently licking in circles and/or sucking, there are many techniques to try. Try the alphabet-Trick! Use your tongue to write the alphabet on and around the clitoral area. By doing this, you can be sure your moves are not monotone – something she will enjoy a lot. With practice, preferably use the bottom of your tongue – it’s a bit softer than the rough tongue surface.

 Listening to her reaction – Tongue movements that are too rough can be uncomfortable and too gentle movements can tickle. Hypersensitivity can be a sign of tension – it might help to start with manual stimulation or a small vibrator beforehand. If a woman is turned on by your stimulation, she will push her body and her vaginal area towards you. If she does this you can gently increase the intensity. Hint: Slightly pull the skin, the clitoral hood, right above the clit with your hands so that you can see and stimulate it more freely. If she doesn’t like the oral stimulation, she will pull away and you should decrease the intensity! So use less pressure and/or reduce the pace of your tongue. Some women don’t like having their clitoris directly stimulated but only the direct area around it – every woman is just different

 Going deeper – With a further step, a man can penetrate a woman with his tongue or use one or two fingers whilst continuing oral stimulation. Both can be very pleasurable for a woman. By curling your index finger towards you, you can stimulate the G-spot simultaneously.

 Different positions – There are many other positions in which to orally please a woman. The most famous is presumable the “69”, a sex position that allows for both partners to simultaneously give and receive oral sex. However, the pleasure factor is often exaggerated as both partners can’t really let go and relax.

Tips for odour and taste
The scent and taste of a vagina are influenced by different factors such as nutrition and the hormonal cycle. Hygiene can positively influence the scent and taste on a short-term by cleansing the vagina with a little water before cunnilingus. Avoid soap and wash lotions from pharmacies as they change the natural vaginal flora and affect its self-cleaning function. Some people recommend healthy nutrition for a positive effect on scent and taste (this applies to men too!). Hands off: Alcohol, Cigarettes, Coffee, Meat, Onions, Garlic, Asparagus. Lots of fruit and water are favourable. However, some people argue that it doesn’t really influence the scent or taste.

Conclusion
Oral sex doesn’t only feel good but it can help women get wet, satisfy her more and help her climax. By observing and recognising certain reactions, movements and technique should be adjusted for her and your pleasure.